Are you afraid to get better? Writing the headline for this post, I felt
an immediate emotional reaction to that question. How about you? Immediately I want to say “No, of course not.I love self- improvement. I’m always trying to get better. That’s what we do
as humans. I am always trying to go from chaos to clarity” Whenever I have a strong emotional reaction to something- it’s time to probe deeper to understand why.
The act of improvement often walks hand in hand with fear. It’s much easier to fight with the day to day busyness and simply react then it is to make time behave. It’s like a lot of things in life- we choose to keep the hot mess we know that’s behind door #1 because we know what is there. We don’t want to look behind door #2- because it is the fear of the unknown. We’re afraid of what’s back there. What if I don’t know how to deal with what I find?
In the last few months, we’ve spoken with hundreds of people. When we talk about using Bella Scena to manage all the chaos, we will hear phrases like:
The idea of abandoning door #1 to approach door #2 will create apprehension for many of us. Starting to proactively manage what’s happening around you means you have to face some fears. What might those fears around managing time reveal? And how do they tie to our fear of improvement?
There are days when life is hard and messy. We know that sometimes you get stuck and having trouble moving forward. And some days we all just fall flat on our face. Which makes us completely normal human beings. Falling down is normal. Dusting ourselves off and getting back up again is the hard part. It’s time to encourage that inner fierce part of ourselves. It’s okay to have a fear of improvement once in a while. But we can’t live there permanently.
How do we do that? If we want to really move the needle forward, what are some pragmatic steps to go forward in moving from chaos to clarity?
Remember, it’s a marathon not a sprint. So keep turtling along and running your race. The one only you can run.
At Bella Scena, we would love to help you take your first steps on managing all your spinning plates so you can go from deliberate to done. Click here to learn more.